I don’t know what to say! (part 1)

When I was working with the person who taught me EFT, it worked great. Now that I am working on my own, I don’t know what phrases to use. Do you have any suggestions?

This is a very common question. It is important to remember the words are not magical. They are used to help us pull what ever we are working on into the thought field. Often clients get worked up because they are feel like they are going to use the wrong words.

Remember there is no penalty for getting it “wrong”. The worst outcome with EFT is wasting 90 seconds of your life. Be easy about the words. Trust your intuition. What is import is your focus on the problem, not the words.

Over the next few weeks, I will address this with a number of suggestions on what to do when you can’t think of what to say.

Here is my first...

One of my EFT phone clients "Christi" was having a very hard time getting out of bed in the morning to go to the gym. We had been doing a lot of work about all the "penalties" for going to gym: Everyone will see she is so out of shape ... She doesn’t like the way she looks in exercise clothing ... She is so out of shape it is hopeless ... She will fail again. We were making great progress around these issues, but it was still a great struggle for her to get out of bed in the morning.

I had read an article from the “EFT Insights Newsletter” on Future Tapping for dealing with things we fear for the future and thought it might help for statement of things we would like to see happen. The thought being if we make statements about what we would like to have happen, all of the issues that prevent this from happening will arise, even if we don't name them or even know what they are (much like the Hero Technique).

So I had Christi rate how the truth of the statement, "I am going to jump out of bed tomorrow morning, energetically, and ready to go to the gym." She rated this as a 4 on a scale of 0 to 10. So we tapped...

I am going to climb in to bed and be relaxed.

My body is going to peacefully and naturally drift to sleep.

I am going to get a good night sleep.

The sleep will be restful.

I will wake up energized and ready for the day.

I am going to be ready to go to the gym.

I am going have a great work out.

I have going to be happy with my progress.

I am going to leave the gym full of energy for the rest of the day.

We then tested the truth of the statement, "I am going to jump out of bed tomorrow morning, energetically, and ready to go to the gym." It was now and 8 out of 10. I then asked what part of the statement didn't feel true. We were then able to deal with whatever residual issues were left (which I can't remember right now).
Christi has reported back that this a great tool and it has made it easier to get up in the morning to go to the gym. So much so, she now uses the technique to set up her whole day.
I have found this is a great technique for EFT beginners to use by themselves. Many of my clients don't feel like they know what they are supposed to say or what to focus in on when they are doing tapping on their own. This protocol is easy for them to use because all they need to do is state exactly what they want. The protocol is very simple:
1. State what you would like to see happen in the future. (e.g. I am going to spring out of bed tomorrow. I am going to be calm when I confront my boss. I am going to be at peace when I visit my mother in the hospital.)
2. Rate how true you think the statement is.
3. Keep tapping and state how everything is going to unfold in a prefect world.
4. Re-rate the original statement. If it is not fully true. Repeat the process.


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